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Secrets, Secrets, are No Fun…

I found myself yesterday trying to figure out how much a character would say about their past. To anyone, a stranger, or to someone they were very close with. How long would it take them to spill the beans about something important and personal to them?

Privacy is another factor that relegates how much is told about the character at one point, it’s what defines what other characters around them find out, and how they find out. It shapes the story, gives it more or less conflict, and puts a more obvious time stamp on what will be revealed when, and how.

It’s as simple as comfort, but if you take into consideration that some people feel the need to talk to others about heavy topics because they have no one else to talk to them about, it adds another dimension.

The inspiration for this comes from an experience where I was asked a bunch of more personal questions that I’d talk to a trusted friend about, and, they were someone I trusted and wanted to talk to about those things. Except, there was someone behind me who I didn’t care to let know anything about my life, personal or otherwise. When she found out certain things and started asking questions, I got prickly, and felt like walling up.

I noticed it was something I had a few of my heroes do before. You earn that trust, and the ability to know that information. Some are a little more lenient, though, deeming certain information able to be heard by others, some strangers, pending phrasing and vagueness.

So I guess the question then becomes about the trust issues the critters have.

And trust goes so much farther than just conversation, it is the basis of most actions and is why we do what we do most days. It builds into love, care, and affection, it’s a reason for effort and time spent, it’s what makes us want to go out of our way for others, to help.

Stepping back away from the psych side of things… I realize that another thing to consider is what they have to had. Whether it’s because they’re afraid of ridicule, or because they’d rather keep quiet than deal with reactions, good or bad. Maybe they’re tired of saying anything about it. After spending a day getting asked about an obvious injury, it’s not hard to imagine wanting to hide it so that the questions can finally stop.

Will something happen if they let the secret loose? It’s chaos in an instant, and suddenly the story is thrown for a loop and they’re trying to do damage control. Hah! But is that what you wanted all along? To find a way to get those secrets out in the first place, because the character is too walled up to let it out themselves?

Ultimately, it’s another side of them that makes them something more dynamic than just a vessel for a story to be told. They become easier to relate to,  to sympathize and empathize with both. Filling out their secrets and feeling out their boundaries is just another part to definition and development. A rather fun one, if you ask me.

-The Novice Wordsmith

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Specialty

Writing from the heart isn’t difficult when you do it so often. Even easier, at times, is writing something for someone you love or care for. This manages to come well in handy during the holiday season or for birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

I found years ago that writing, like painting, is an acceptable medium of which to gift someone something. It’s personal, it’s creative, and it’s intimate. It is an expression of how you know that person in some ways, an inside joke expansion, or maybe it’s just something you came up with that reminded you of that person.

For some time, I’d felt a little self conscious about the idea. I always saw it as being able to gift someone a gift made from personal creativity should have been limited to things that didn’t take too much effort on their part. For the people who don’t care for reading, pictures, drawings, photos, sculptures, a craft, something you can touch and hold.

Having a story, a poem, a chapter dedication, a character description, specifically made for someone is just as special as a crocheted hat that you had to do and redo and redo about five times in five hours. It comes from your hands and your heart, it’s crafted, from you, special, with that person in mind specifically. You gave your time and your effort and your care to make sure that it was nurtured and put together just how you felt it would be right.  It was made perfect because you made it so.

Consider your passion when you gift. Do it for everyone or just a few people. Do it for your lover, or your sibling, do it for the neighbor who has been having a tough time recently. Most of all, do it because you can, and because you want to.

The person’s interest still matter, I realize; you wouldn’t gift someone a huge story who doesn’t care to read, but someone who you know will appreciate your effort in that regard. Writing may be a fickle gift to give in some cases, but it’s certainly more personal than a tie, which is why it’s sometimes my favorite gift to give, to certain people. ❤

Also, one of the best things about writing something for a gift is that it’s FREE! So if you’re broke (like me), it’s perfect! This way you can be thoughtful and savvy! Who doesn’t love that?

In conclusion, it’s the thought that counts, so why not bring it to life?

-The Novice Wordsmith